I have noticed that people are self-reflecting a lot these days. They are asking themselves who they are being with respect to their relationships, jobs, money and even their health.
This is actually very good, however, why are they still in so much emotional and even physical pain? It’s judgment. Judgment is toxic. Most of us judge what we are reflecting on as a damaging habit. We tell ourselves some pretty mean and awful things as we reflect on life. As a therapist and love coach, I’ve heard it all: I’m so stupid; I can’t get it right; I’m a failure; I’ll never measure up; It’s never going to happen for me; I can’t do it; and on and on.
Judgment, energetically speaking, is a contracted energy. It locks you into conclusions, which never feels good to the infinite being that you actually are. When you are judging your experience or the experience of others, it just doesn’t feel good – not to you or anyone around you.