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From Cancer Blues to Mini-blue

by 210Cancer, Cancer Patients, Caregivers, PeopleTags: , ,

It’s 3:00 A.M. and I wake up realizing that this is the last day with our beloved Mini-blue. Suddenly flooded with memories of that day when the three of us – my husband David, our son Mark and I – walk into the Mini Cooper dealership, wide-eyed and excited. Smiling, we look at each other knowing what the other was thinking, “This day is finally here! We made it!”

You see, this wasn’t any ol’ day; this was the zenith we’ve been waiting for – where one dramatic period was ending and a new and exciting one was beginning.

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4-Step Guide to Taming Your Fears When Illness Hits: A Caregiver’s Perspective (Part II)

by 10Cancer Patients, Caregivers, PeopleTags: , , ,

taming-your-fear-part-1In last week’s post, I shared with you how my world turned totally upside-down in just four terrifying days. Our son with diagnosed with Lyme disease and my husband was told, “You have stage-4 cancer.” Fear took hold of me and shook me to the core. I knew it was time to follow my own prescription for fear by using a process that I had created for my psychotherapy and coaching clients – the method I call F.E.A.R. I’m excited to reveal that today, but first, let’s get the nitty-gritty on fear.

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4-Step Guide to Taming Your Fears When Illness Hits: A Caregiver’s Perspective (Part I)

by 10Cancer Patients, Caregivers, PeopleTags: , , ,

taming-your-fear-part-2Four Days and Five Words That Turned My World Upside Down

It was a beautiful day in mid-October and my husband was getting a haircut. His barber, Fast Freddie, said, “Hey man, what’s this lump protruding from your neck?” He admitted to Freddie that he’d never noticed it before. My husband showed me the lump and was convinced that he must’ve pulled a muscle during one of his strenuous weight-lifting workouts. I said, “Let’s make an appointment with the doctor, just to make sure.” With some reluctance, he agreed.

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What You Didn’t Know About Meditation Will Calm You Down Now

by 30Cancer Patients, Caregivers, MeditationsTags: , , , , ,

Fotosearch_k0485816I am busting the myth that all meditations are quiet and serene. Actually, some can be quite active, powerful and releasing. Before jumping in and getting physical, first, tune into what’s upsetting you.

Part 1 – What’s Bothering You?

Is something upsetting you? Then, the meditation below will help calm you right down. Go ahead and find out what that is. Does it have to do with a comment someone made or how you are harshly judging yourself? Maybe it’s about your relationship or lack thereof? Good, you are getting to what’s bothering you.

Now feel it… feel your emotions completely and notice where it lands in your body. When you tune into your body, you can locate it right away. I know you don’t like feeling this, and I promise that you’re going to release it soon during the meditation portion of this blog, but for now, just feel it. Be with it. Don’t judge it as “bad”, but allow yourself to feel this feeling entirely. Good for you, because this is not easy.

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The Nasty Little Habit You Need to Break

by 20Caregivers, Meditations, PeopleTags: , , , ,

Fotosearch_k3950922I have noticed that people are self-reflecting a lot these days. They are asking themselves who they are being with respect to their relationships, jobs, money and even their health.

This is actually very good, however, why are they still in so much emotional and even physical pain? It’s judgment. Judgment is toxic. Most of us judge what we are reflecting on as a damaging habit. We tell ourselves some pretty mean and awful things as we reflect on life. As a therapist and love coach, I’ve heard it all: I’m so stupid; I can’t get it right; I’m a failure; I’ll never measure up; It’s never going to happen for me; I can’t do it; and on and on.

Judgment, energetically speaking, is a contracted energy. It locks you into conclusions, which never feels good to the infinite being that you actually are. When you are judging your experience or the experience of others, it just doesn’t feel good – not to you or anyone around you.

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